Father's Day Card

To those who have the Father who maybe has abused you, left you as a child, rejected you as an adult, expected you to make up for those expectations he had of your mother. For those who have earthly fathers who left the family, or those who had fathers who were never home......you know what I'm talking about.  

This poem was written in one of my darker moments three years ago. Since then I have learned that these times DO PASS as we apply life lessons such as  

'The Fifth Agreement' by Don Miguel Riuz  
"Don’t Take Anything Personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering."

She knew.
She knew the moment she hung her head in shame before asking for help
That her father would reject her.
Blame her
Shame her for some real or imagined fault that led her to this place.
This time however the woman was stronger than the weaker child within
And when the shame came
Although she cried,
She stood tall within before
She uttered the words “I need to say goodbye now.”

No more.
No more blame.
No more shame.
No more whipping the abandoned child within for an adult decision that was forced upon her.

Today she is a woman.
Not only a woman but a survivor.
An abandoned child of a father who in more ways than one turned his back on her.

So who is this man she is calling Daddy?
Was he the one who held her as the hurts of life came?
Does she call him when the times get tough because she knows he will comfort her?
If out of a home, food and medicine will he be a strong hand that reaches out in the financial storm?
When her husband leaves will he affirm her as a capable, loveable strong woman who picked a weak man?

Daddy……… no……she does not have a daddy.
Those years are gone.
She does have a heavenly Father who wrapped a warm invisible blanket around her in the dead of night.
She has a Pappa  Bear who gives everything that a daughter truly needs.
She is not abandoned.

She has just come to the mirror of life
And the reflection has shown a woman who was ready to hear
The words that a child could not handle.

“I am sorry that things could not have been different.”

“I will always love you.”

A man knows his mind she has learned.
When a man says something….listen and believe him.
Her  birth father has said goodbye.

Let Go.
Let God.
Make peace with yourself and
Move on to the happiness and love within
It is more than enough.

Written by:
Debbie Kesley